5. Tech-free night together

At least once a month devote a night to tuning out the world, and solely tuning in to your partner. Turn off or power down all the technology and electronics in your house and just visit with each other. You would be surprised how hard this is for most people to do. OMG, can you possibly fathom it?: no TV, no phone, no cell, no computer, no texts. (Don't worry if you're missing a program, that's the beauty of the VCR.) The only thing allowed is music and that has to come from the stereo and not from some videos on a music channel. Have, what I call, snacks and beverages. Mix up a batch of your favorite cocktails you'd have if you were on vacation. Make a pitcher of margaritas or sangria, or, if you're a no-alcohol house, iced tea or lemonade. Have a platter of nibbles. Choose a place in the house that's private or cozy. Light candles but not too many. Use this time to talk and share and recharge your relationship batteries. Focus on your partner and not yourself. End the night on an intimate note. If you can't enjoy each other in this manner, then you need to figure out the reasons why.