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When a Married Man Cheats, is it with You?
Original Publication Date:
May 2010
-Lady Antebellum
Pz's Pointers on women who sleep with married men
1. You are available with no strings attached
For some women it's about nothing more than having fun. They want to be able to say they did what they did with so and so and it's nothing more than the conquest. It's as simple as fishing. You cast the net and snag a catch in the process. There are no expectations. It's about immediate gratification on both parties parts and they part ways and call it a night. Just because it's only sex for fun and nobody's falling in love, it can still hurt a lot of people.
2. You are available with strings waiting to be attached
For other women it's about the challenge of taking a man away from his current wife and beating out tons of other hot hopefuls in the process. If you are that woman who thinks you are the next in line to openly be on the arm of this coveted man, then you have little conscious thought for the wife in the wings. If you target a married man and finagle your way into his pants hoping to permanently sway your way into his heart, you had better stop and do a personal reality and morality check. This man is someone else's husband. If you are truly the woman for him, tell him to come back when he's no longer married, and you'll be happy to be his number one girl when he's finally single and actually available. Chances are you'll have a long wait on that one.
3. You will do what the wife won't
How often do we hear the excuse that the wife has become boring or too consumed with taking care of everything other than her husband? How many times have we heard the husband cheats because he's being neglected and women buy into the tired saga that they can do things for him the wife won't? You know, maybe there is some truth to that. Maybe the marriage has become stale and nobody is getting fulfilled. Instead of communicating this problem to his wife, the guy opts to hang out with someone other than his wife who can rekindle a spark in him that has gone dim at home. Are you that someone meeting the needs of the poor, neglected guy? That's exciting as long as life or his wife doesn't get in the way.
4. You think you're that special
If a guy is determined to cheat he will. If you make it easy and make yourself available, he'll cheat with you. This notion isn't complicated and any woman who thinks a guy is singling her out because she's special or superior to his wife is deluding herself. You will only be special for the time and the money he spends before returning to his everyday world. You will only be special for as long as you remain hidden, until somebody else special comes along, or for as long as he doesn't get caught.
5. You are there when opportunity strikes
With money and power comes vast opportunity. Many men in high positions travel a great deal or are subjected to a life where business and entertainment overlap and wives aren't always around. Athletes, politicians, musicians, and actors are professions that carry an elevated profile and lend themselves to throngs of women admirers. Often women, acting like lust-struck groupies, follow these guys around and plant themselves firmly within reach like ripe fruit screaming to be plucked from the vine. Pick me, choose me, love me is the underlying battle cry. Are you that woman hanging out at the games or the concerts or the rallies or the hotels? Are you that woman at the club or the restaurant making yourself available and making it so obvious? Are you strategizing to catch the guy at the perfect time to work on becoming the next Mrs. Woods or Mrs. James or Mrs. Edwards? Just because the rich or famous person is acting like an unmarried guy instead of a married man, what does that say about him? What does that say about you?
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Pz Hopkins says...
Of course married men are responsible--that is a GIVEN.The point of the column is to help women who opt to sleep w/these schmucks realize their actions don't happen in a vacuum. There are consequences for which they are a part.They can't keep him from cheating.They can keep him from cheating w/them~
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Naomi says...
Wow...I guess we've completely given up on men...we're now making it the responsibility of single women to make married men stay faithful. I vote we hold married men responsible, and remind them of THEIR moral responsiblities. HE made the vows, NOT her! SHE has no duties to HIS marriage or