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Original Publication Date:
August 2009
4. Pay positive attention to your partner in public
Next time you're dining out take a look at the couples around you. See how many of them are actively engaged in some obvious pleasant way with their partner or look bored to death and are just going through the motions of the restaurant experience. How about in the gym? Lots of couples train together. Treat your partner like they are the most terrific person in the room. I don't care what room you're in. No matter how strong or secure a relationship seems or the people in the relationship are, you can never stop showing your love and devotion. This applies to men and women alike. Men—don't be stupid and flirt with the waitress and not bother to flirt with the woman you came with. Women—don't act foolish with the hunky guy working out next to you and forget to compliment your partner. Being friendly is perfectly fine and fun. Flirting doesn't mean you're interested. After all, we're not blind or dead, but there is a line we shouldn't cross. We should know where the line is. Nobody wants to feel they don't measure up. When we give others more attention than our partner we run the risk of causing them to feel bad. Why would we want to make someone we love feel that way? Balance your attention in public and be sure your partner never gets short changed.
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Pz Hopkins says...
Great compromise. Good for you! Glad you could come up with a solution to your differences and still sleep in the same bed. Thanks for sharing.~
Monica says...
we being together only for one year but living together for 9 months.I noticed we dont have sex too often anymore.I asked him and he told me thats the way he is, that he can be hot for weeks and then cold.Also mentioned he might be bored because of the rutine.Is this normal after only one year??
Pz Hopkins says...
After barely a year you should still be in a hot honeymoon phase. The sex should not have waned as you describe. I'm more concerned that Mr. Hot & Cold says he's bored--not a good sign. If the "routine" is stale then change it now. That's a good place to start...together. Let me know how it goes~
Sam says...
How does depression affect sex and relationships? I feel very distant from everyone as a result of money problems and difficulties at work. Our relationship used to be a sanctuary from the world but lately I've been so depressed that I'e lost my sexual appetite. Mr. Hot & Cold
Pz Hopkins says...
Depression is a killer in many ways. Being distant is a means of coping with the pain of your troubles in a troubled world. Try & be connected 2 your partner on some level even if you aren't your normal sexual self. If you can let the closeness in it can be of some comfort. Don't ever give up on you
sleep lover says...
My boyfriend gets really hot during the night and I get really cold. I wouldn't say we sleep apart but he sleeps over the covers and I sleep under. It's done wonders for both of us when it comes to sleep :)