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How Do You Measure Up When Nobody's Looking?
Original Publication Date:
August 2008
5. Haters on message boards
If aliens came to Earth from a more advanced galaxy and only had message boards by which to make assessments about human beings, they would quickly draw some pretty sad conclusions. First, they would think that we were one hateful, mean-spirited, whiny, bitchy bunch of judgmental ignoramuses, and they would be right. As much as I love technology--and I do--it is a place where the mindless, clueless, haters gather to spew their jealousy and venom. It has become so pervasive until it is acceptable and expected behavior. How pitiful have we become as a society that we feed into the hate threads at every possible turn? What you think, speak, and, yes, type, is who you are. Your words, all your words, from wherever they originate, count. You can't take them back. You can't pretend like they don't exist and they didn't come from you. They are out in the universe for all time--ALL TIME. Be a more conscious steward of the gift of technology man has been given. Just because you can hide behind that screen name doesn't mean you're safe from accountability of what you say on that screen. Just because we have the freedom of speech, have the right to our opinion, and the right to disagree, doesn't give us a free pass to do it in anything other than a constructive or productive way. If you are one of these haters ask yourself the question, what payoff are you getting from all the hating?
6. Letting go to move forward
Think of the people in your circle who aren't affirmative and uplifting. Think of those who have a flow of negative—speak when they open their mouths. If you choose to surround yourself with those types of folks, over and over, their influence will not assist but will impede you on your journey. It's hard to let go, especially of individuals who have held some meaning or significance. This is not to say they are evil, or bad. They deplete your energy and prevent you from moving in a direction of happiness. The more positive people you can be around, the more positive you will become. Remember: you attract what you put out. You get what you ask for. There will be times when it is you who is the negative one. When that occurs, you should stop and acknowledge the feeling and discharge it consciously. Get to the root. Trust the universe. Give yourself permission to choose the most positive behavior in each moment.
7. The Moral and Ethical chip
What separates human beings from the lower life forms is that we have conscious choice. It's something like an ingrained, invisible chip that is a compass for our spiritual navigation. We are faced with decisions, choices, and dilemmas everyday that force us to look within. A responsible choice is one that takes into account the consequences and what the choice will produce. We are evolving from a species that pursues external power to one that pursues authentic power. How we love and serve others is what will be done exactly to us in return.
In the end, your word represents who you are. Together, they are one and the same. You can scrape away all the superficial stuff, all the ego and vanity and trappings we have come to deem important, and you're left with you. There isn't anything ever created that was without value. Your life is of value as are your actions and your words that make up the means by which you evolve. Whether anyone is watching or not you are--along with the universe.
Reader Comments
Tony Biegger says...
Being a follower of the PBR I feel TY must be a great person and I think you both make a great couple. Hope you get your wish and have a baby it sure will have a great mom and dad to see it thru life. God Bless.