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Do younger women love me for my money?

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Dear Pz, I'm a single, wealthy guy in my 40's who is generous to a fault with women. I'll admit I don't ever date anyone around or near my age, it's more like half my age. I have a thing where I shower them with all kinds of gifts including clothes, jewelry, cars, and even plastic surgery. Lots of times I pay their rent and take care of their expenses. They all gladly accept my money and presents and would love more of a commitment, but it doesn't take long when the relationship becomes stale and I move on to the next. My problem is I can't seem to tell if they like me for me or is it primarily for my money. Do you have any advice for me to get a better handle on this?

Thanks, K at the beach

Dear K at the beach, Every single woman in her 20s reading the column at this very moment will be mailing me for your number. Seriously though, you just might enjoy this story.

I knew a rich, brilliant guy in Vegas who behaved similarly when it came to women. He had a penchant for the struggling 20-something cocktail waitress and could easily seduce one after the other. His ultimate goal in each relationship was to engage them in a total makeover—head to toe. Nothing was too lavish or outlandish. At his directive, these ladies spent their days sunning, shopping or being pampered or improved in every conceivable fashion, and their nights paraded around town or jet setting across the globe always on hand, looking adoringly on as the master methodically molded his new creation.

I recall when one of these lucky proteges had both breast and buttocks augmentation done simultaneously—no kidding—and was brought to his home in a limo with a private nurse and propped up for comfort on a custom blue bean bad during her days of recovery. The transformations of the women who walked in and out of his world were major.

Fascinatingly, none of them made him happy for log. Once the process was complete and he had taken the women as far as he thought possible, he sent them packing, and moved on to the next. They rarely departed without a fuss, since the lifestyle he had introduced was a tough act to replace, but when he lost interest—and he always did—they were history.

As friend and observer, I was curious why he never considered women closer to his age of 48. He said he liked the control he had over younger, needy women—that they were predictable and impressionable with much less. He felt he could shape them found them and for that they should be grateful. These women fell in love with his money, his power, and the atmosphere of the fantasy. He didn't have any illusions about whether or not they loved him—he knew better. In reality, they could have cared less about the man apart from his many assets, and if you had stripped away the trappings there was little present to qualify as an authentic relationship.

My advice for you is two-fold. First, stop treating women like my Vegas friend—like possessions. You are attracting 'ticket-takers' who will continue to have a short shelf life. Be generous but discerning in a relationship without being little too flashy or foolish. Second, try, for a change, to date a woman who is a bit more mature, has a stronger sense of self, and shows less interest in your wallet. That could mean, dare I say, giving women 30 and beyond a chance! Who knows, you may actually find one who can care about your for you, doesn't go stale so quickly, and ends up worth her weight in gold.

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